We’re always in a hurry to do something. Everyday, we go to school, work, play, sleep and repeat often without any conscious thought. We get so caught up in the routine called “living” that we don’t find time to relax and appreciate the best things in life. Having had some time over the Christmas break to be at home really got me thinking about what matters to me. I’ve conjured up a list of five F’s to summarize them. Each of these items is something I value. Naturally, getting into medical school or getting the best grade was not on this list. It’s dangerous how easily one can get caught up in whatever they’re doing, whether that’s getting an A, climbing the social ladder or accumulating knowledge, but we need to focus on the right issues to keep us on track. So if you haven’t already this new year, come up with a quick list of the things that matter to you, it doesn’t have to be long, usually in a few minutes you can get a pretty good list. Here are my Five F’s of important things in life.
I suspect family is something we all treasure but often forget about. Whether it is your parents, kids, siblings, grandparents, relatives or significant others, these are the people who will stick with you through thick and thin. Their unconditional love allows them to forgive your mistakes and wrongdoings and then truly forget them. Families are the functional units of society, the cells of the body. All my individual efforts, hard work or smarts are nothing compared to the advantage of a loving family.
We cannot choose the family we are born into but we can choose our friends. Friends are the spice of life. To find someone you can share and enjoy our short stay on Earth with is a blessing. Friends inspire us. They make us laugh, cry and think. Recently I had a chance to meet up with some close friends I haven’t seen in years and the amazing part was we continued our friendship right where we left off, as if nothing had happened in between.
Emotions are neither good or bad, only the motivation and cause determines that. Feelings represent what we are thinking about. It is one of the irrational aspects of life that we can’t live without. Even scientists and mathematicians are susceptible to the feelings of love, happiness, anger, passion, frustration, pride and compassion. Emotions make our life exciting and interesting. If friends and family are the important people in our lives, it is because they make us feel alive and full with emotions.
Function – or what you do – matters. We will spend up to a third of our lives working. A large sense of self comes from what we do. Therefore it is important to find a job that you enjoy doing. Obviously function will be tied to finances, but there is so much more to work than just the money. For me, work should be something that excites me and captures my imagination. Meaningful work can motivate you to wake up in the morning and keep you up at night.
Lastly, there is faith. This encompasses both belief in a creator and a belief in science. It includes the spiritual nature of mankind and the everyday trust we have in each other. There is faith in the divine and faith in the goodness of humans. Whether you are religious or not, we all have faith of some sort; without faith, true relationships cannot form but with faith, our trust in each other and the world can grow.
This is my shortlist of my priorities and how I see life. Please feel free to share your own ideas, or any points I missed out on (whether or not they start with an F).