How We Should Die
A quote from a beautiful piece that has been going around the web by Ken Murray titled “How Doctors Die“
It’s not a frequent topic of discussion, but doctors die, too. And they don’t die like the rest of us. What’s unusual about them is not how much treatment they get compared to most Americans, but how little. For all the time they spend fending off the deaths of others, they tend to be fairly serene when faced with death themselves. They know exactly what is going to happen, they know the choices, and they generally have access to any sort of medical care they could want. But they go gently.
Many times in the last year I have seen patients suffer from inappropriate medical decisions. Metastatic cancer patients who receieve aggressive treatment despite of the physical, emotional and financial costs associated with it. A 94 year old post stroke brain dead patient being kept alive in the ICU by a ventilator and triple-pressor support because the family did not want to withdraw care. Dieing can be a messy thing.
In undergrad, I read a book titled “How We Die“ by Sherwin Nuland, a physician practising at Yale, that challenged many of my pre-med notions of death. Particularly, it helped me understand how little mastery we have over our mortality and that death is a natural process of life. People are always eager to tell you how we should live but few broach the topic of how we should die.
One of the tasks we do as a medical student whenever we admit a patient is to determine their code status. We ask questions that people are unfamiliar with. What should our medical team do if anything was to happen to you. If your heart stopped beating, do you want us to perform CPR? If your lungs stopped breathing, would you want a tube passed through your throat to help you breathe? Discussing code status is an often misunderstood topic. Many patients and families find it difficult to approach the subject. Does this mean the medical team is giving up? Does it mean the patient won’t receive any help if anything was to happen? What the patient and their families often fail to understand is the difference between quantity and quality of life. Many times in the course of a disease, our medical interventions cross over from benefiting the patient to harming them.
During my Internal Medicine rotation, an attending taught me to be specific with my do not resuscitate orders. Explain what each aspect of their code status meant and clarify each point. No CPR, No ICU, No Intubation, No Heroic Measures.
Death is a terrifying event for patients and their families. I know my views on it have changed this last year after repeatedly seeing death firsthand. What I’ve learned is that we shouldn’t be afraid to talk about death. As health care workers, we spend most of our time talking about possible treatment options, even when there is none left. We don’t spend enough time explaining realistic outcomes to patients and discussing what their final wishes will be. Are we continuing treatment for the benefit of the patient or are we causing suffering to spare the emotions of those that are living. Becoming a doctor is more than just learning about how to save lives. In the process, you learn to respect human life and the complexities associated with it, and you begin to understand the possibilities and limitations of our art.